I sat across the room from twenty-seven beautiful ladies.
They were all different in culture, personality, and lifestyles. However, we all shared a deep pain.
The agony of betrayal.
If you are reading this and have felt the devastation that betrayal brings, then you know what I mean.
The meaning of betrayal is an act of deliberate disloyalty.
To betray is to mislead or deceive someone/ to destroy someone’s trust. Betrayal can also mean that someone gives away secret information to an enemy.
For us, betrayal changed the course of our lives.
Blindsided by the events that took place, we were left to clean up the mess we did not make.
For almost one year we gathered face to face, sorting through the tangled web of lies, trying to make sense of the unnecessary trauma caused by the men who promised to love, honor, and cherish us till death.
Betrayal brings confusion as well as death to the relationship.
I found myself referring to the group as a lifeboat.
A safe place that we could gather together, share our story and through prayer and the word of God, healing took place.
God began to pull us out of the quicksand and onto solid ground.
Some of the lessons I’ve learned while walking through healing is to join arms with other believers who are on the same journey.
It is critical to find a godly counselor who will not carelessly throw bible verses at you as though trying to fit you into a mold for healing your hurts. God is personal and takes great joy in recovering his children.
Ask God to lead you to someone who understands the wounds of broken trust and relies on God’s word to heal and not condemn.
There is something comforting in knowing that others can identify with your pain.
Some of the women in this life group have become my dearest friends.
It is a sad story when betrayal happens, and out of shame, guilt, and wrong thinking, women keep hidden the things that are in the dark.
Ephesians 5:8 ” For you were once in darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light.”
I remember hearing the Lord say to me, “Jamie until you allow me to shine in the darkness of your pain, you will never be free.”
How I wanted to be free.
Don’t allow the enemy or others to cast shame on you, causing you to stay silent. Come out of the darkness.
The word of God is truth and will show you the way to go.
“Your word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path.” Psalm 119: 105.
If you or someone you know is a victim of betrayal, I have listed a handful of resources that could be useful tools to help manage the crisis and bring healing.
Betrayal is not okay.
No matter how someone justifies it.
It is wrong and brings with it a lifetime of consequences that affects the entire family.
Rather done through viewing pornography which will become an addiction if not already or the gut-wrenching slap in the face of an affair.
It takes courage to step out and trust God to heal you.
I pray you allow God to be the source of your strength and give you hope for your future.
“All glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think.” Ephesians 3:20
I’m praying for you today,
The Holy Bible
Puredesire.org Phone # 503.489.0203
Workbook Betrayal and Beyond
Peace beyond the tears: ( Hope after sexual betrayal) by Tina Harris with Diane Roberts.
An Affair of the Mind by Laurie Hall. (One woman’s courageous battle to salvage her family from the devastation of pornography)
If you have questions, please feel free to email me. firstname.lastname@example.org
Let me know how God has healed your betrayed heart.